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We all come into contact with those people who can ruin a good mood in seconds. They are just mean spirited, rude, uncompassionate, self-serving and self-absorbed. Some of us tend to hold in our frustration or anger, which is very unhealthy as this can lead to anxiety and stress problems which do affect our health. A friend of mine informed me of how she deals with situations like this, she journals! She explained that it has helped her so much.

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Saturday, November 22, 2014

The Many Faces of a Narcissist

Are they a Narcissist? Or are they not?  We think it's that simple, but in reality, it's not.  Not only is it actually hard to spot one, there are various types of Narcissists.  So, in this blog, I'm going to go over the different types. 

  • Classic/Overt : Ego, ego, ego!  That is this guy...  Typical Narcissist, control is a must.  You must do everything     they say, never question them, never confront them, they will turn it around on you. 
  • Introverted : While they might have grandiose fantasies and can be highly skilled or talented, this is rarely shown because they have a lack of self confidence, they feel very incapable and inadequate. Will avoid all responsibility.  Because of this they will rarely accomplish much in their lives.  This Narc is also co-dependent, they seek relationships with those they can be dependent upon, like Classic Narcs.  
  • Cerebral : Grandiose to the max, they are soooo much better, soooo much smarter, and sooo much more talented than anyone else.  They are always right, never wrong, and when they are wrong, they are right.  No matter what story you have, they have an exact one that is more "better" than yours, they've been through it too, but waaaay worse than you.  They have a distorted view of reality, but love to give advice!
  • Somatic : Instead of using their intelligence like the previous example, this one uses their body.  Very lustful, they think they are "Gods".  Always has multiple sex partners, this is very normal.
  • Covert : Very dangerous, they hide who they are, work behind the scenes.  Also known as Malignant Narcs.  This type of Narcissism is more common in females than males.  This type of narc is an expert as gaslighting, and other forms of manipulation.  This type will draw a person into their live, and suck them dry, emotionally.  Once this person is emotionally drained, the Narc then destroys their identity.  Through abuse, black mail, manipulations, etc...  anyway to control their victim.  Secret affairs, and one night stands are common, everything is done secretly.
  • Elite Narcissist : Highly successful, concerned with wealth, material items, power, money, etc.. Not only are they wealthy, but they use highly manipulative and deceptive ways to destroy their victims.  Possible shady dealings, covered by a legit business.  Based on their deception they have built a false self, a false life, over many many years.  If you challenge their fake self, they will eliminate with no empathy.
  • Narc-Psychopath : As it sounds, a Narcissist and psychopath, with traits from both.  It is important to note, that not all psychopaths are narcs, and not all narcs are psychopaths.  Highly manipulative, lack of empathy, does not care about laws, or others, etc.  Fits all types.

When looking at all the different types of Narcissists, it's easy to see how there are so many Narcs out there, and why we keep running into them.  I have met families of Narcissists even.  There really is no way to eliminate running into one, or developing a relationship with one (friendship or intimate), the only thing we can do is know the signs, and get out as soon as we recognize them.

I'd also like to state, that just because someone seems like a Narc, or fits the symptoms, does not always make them a narc... please be careful throwing that accusation out.  :D













Information found on: 
DSM5
http://sparkster.hubpages.com/hub/Various-Types-Of-Narcissist-NPD-Narcissistic-Personality-Disorder-Malignant-Self-LoveNarcissism