So… I’ve been
thinking of what my next blog should be, and I keep seeing things that stand
out…
FAKES! That is the
topic of this blog…
There are various types of fake people, each are equally
emotionally draining…
The first I will talk about is the basic narcissist,
emotional predator, they are fake friends, they drain you… use you, don’t care
about you… they are mean and rude to you.
And the second you start to put
The second I’m going to talk about is the “fake friend” they
are borderline narcs, they are great to be around, you can make plans with, go
hang out with, have fun with, however ONLY when it is beneficial to them. You come in last, your feelings don’t
matter. If you make plans? They will change them and if you can’t make
it, tuff! Even if it’s an event YOU
planned. They will cancel last minute, and give some bullshit excuse as to “family”
or something so if you get mad they can turn it around on you. What the heck man?! Again, you hardly realize this tell it’s too
late, and by then the damage is done, your hurt, and confused… you don’t
understand why they would treat you like this?
Fortunately this isn’t you, this is THEM… their problem, they’re not loyal, honest, or
truthful…. They are selfish and self-absorbed…
NOT worth it!
Third would be the attention getters… OH my gosh, this frustrates
me so bad. They are the ones who
post
every detail of their days on facebook, or tell you over and over, looking for
attention. They talk about how much
harder things are for them, how they have to struggle, how they have it sooooo
bad. Come on, we all know that type… They will post about the SAME stuff over and
over, just to get attention. When you
just want to scream at them WE GET IT!!! GET OVER IT!!! But you wont, because that would hurt their
feelings. Because simply they have no
life, they want to grasp at any attention they can get in any way. When in reality, they have a really sad and
boring life, and will do anything to get any form of attention they can. When in reality, they are lazy, they have
time just don’t do anything. They are
social whores, they fly around the sites, making as many friends as they can
and live in this little world that isn’t true, they’ll like almost anything,
and just literally attach themselves like leaches to people they want to live
through.
Fourth is fake people in general. They have separate lives, they try to act
like something they aren’t, they want to “lie to kick it” think if they embellish
their lives. When if they would just
realize people like them how they are, no need to act like this!
What do these all have in common? They are all forms of emotional predators,
they take their toll on us, they drain us… they sap our energy for dealing with
it, and seeing it. There is something
missing in their lives, that have to behave in ways like these…
How to handle this?
You can do a few things actually.
You can put up healthy boundaries, you can try to talk to them, however
depending on the person, you might not be able to. Because any time you try to (even when they
ARE at fault) they will try to turn the situation around and make you look like
the bad guy, they can’t accept they were in the wrong and apologize. However, talking to them might be the best
option. If it causes a problem, then how
good of friends were they to being with right??? Another thing you could do is
nothing, just keep dealing with it, with the awareness that something is wrong
with them and not you. OR finally you
can just bounce out, not even deal with it.
But this is serious, you need to understand that something is mentally
wrong with them, something in their life is missing, which causes them to
behave this way.
Remember this: Friendship is accepting the good with the
bad, no one is perfect…
However : everyone does have their limits… you just need to figure yours out…
<3 !!
ReplyDeleteThank you Lizz!
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